This world is filled with people who are purpose driven and focused. People, who are in constant pursuit of their happiness! People with clear goals and objectives in life. Objectives that can be categorized into short-term, mid-term, and long-term timelines and milestones.
If you are one of this type stop and ask yourself this question – Do you have a feeling of emptiness, after achieving your goals that you set to achieve and strived so hard for? If yes have you wondered why?
Don’t worry if you don’t know the answer or don’t have the answer to the query above. Because you can rejoice in the fact that you are not alone in the world out there! You’re probably one of those millions of sincere, hardworking, creative, focused and purpose driven human beings who followed the steps or processes what many a management guru have prescribed, in various forms, to achieve your goals!
They would have asked you to be SMART and LOCKE’d you in a rut! Or suggested that you GROW up, but paralyzing you with constant analyzing in the process!
And if you were not enthralled by the material world of goals then by asking you to BE, DO and HAVE, the promise of attaining spiritual elevation would have been guaranteed to you!
At the end of all these, many of us still find it difficult to answer with a straight and definitive Yes or NO to this simple question – “ Do you feel 100% happy now?”
Why is this like this? What is the reason for this emptiness? Why are we still not satisfied after reaching our SMART goals? Why, why, why…
The making of a Humanoid
The answer to the “Why’s” above, lies in the “What” of your goals?
When we look at the essence of all our goals, we will see it is steeped in “What” is it that we want at the end of it all!
The problem with the “WHAT” world is that it is limited and trivializes your life to a series of transactions- otherwise called Short-term, Mid-term and Long-term goals!
In management terminology these processes makes one proclaim that they are goal oriented, focused, purpose driven, responsible, following a set path, possessing the zeal, process driven etc. Otherwise known as a Person with a vision and mission! Thus creating a breed of humans following a specific set of instructions to carry out some specific transactions. Or simply put pre-programmed!
In actuality having a transaction driven life is like living life one dimensionally! At any given time you execute your transactions through specific give and take methods, which have the permutations and combination of win-win, win-lose, lose-win or lose-lose options in the future.
Options which “Unintentionally ” drives us to be devious, manipulative, egoistic, opportunistic, compromising, and most of all self-centered! In my terms dehumanizing everything and making us all machines that is devoid of any emotions. Thus successfully creating humanoids out of humans. A sure shot recipe for ending alone, even after achieving your set goals. What these goal-setting processes succeed to achieve is making effective humanoids out of human beings. Human beings that have the capability to think, feel and reciprocate feelings to machines, that are pre-programmed, which follow a path by ignoring other’s needs while acknowledging their presence, and fixated on executing transactions, with “succeeding” as it’s main theme.
Since all these transactions are future oriented, and have our “survival” as its nucleus, we find ourselves alienated. Standing alone, inspite of being surrounded by other human beings. An island amidst an ocean! A Humanoid, that has the features of a human being, but stands out from the human race, as it cannot feel or understand what it means to be a human!
Powerful words these. In the current world there are no wars or no conflicts. There is only scope for peace. If this is the truth, then why should we have these within ourselves and feel estranged with processes that blind fold us?
To explain Thoreau’s thoughts above we have the methods to achieve our goals. But why should these methods limit us to just one transaction at a time. Why should these processes make us humanoids? What is it that we can do to become humans again?
The answer is simple and lies in developing and increasing our emotional intelligence in addition with our IQ. All the goal-setting processes have made us calculative and logical. They have made us to be future focused and have conditioned us to prepare for tomorrow by remembering the past.
The Past is a fact. Nothing can change it. The Future is just perceptions and we don’t control it. Goal setting processes dished out by all schools tell us to think about the past, analyze it and to prepare to live in a world in the future that is beyond our control. What they fail to say is when we are busy doing these things we lose focus on what is “TODAY”, which is the reality.
“I’m going to enjoy every second, and I’m going to know I’m enjoying it while I’m enjoying it. Most people don’t live; they just race. They are trying to reach some goal far away on the horizon, and in the heat of the going they get so breathless and panting that they lose sight of the beautiful, tranquil country they are passing through; and then the first thing they know, they are old and worn out, and it doesn’t make any difference whether they’ve reached the goal or not.”
― Jean Webster
Goal setting processes have limited our thinking to just “What we want to achieve?” effectively ignoring the impact our actions create and the reactions we receive for our actions. This shortcoming can be overcome and can help us find our original religion – Human Beings – by asking ourselves the following 5 questions and answering it truly on a daily basis:-
- Who are we?
- What do we do?
- For whom do we do it?
- Why is doing this important?
- How is this going to make me and other happier today?
Once we have the answers to these questions, the all it needs for us to do is to follow our D.R.E.A.M.S (Daily Routines Effectively Achieved and Managed for Success) in combination with our goal setting steps to become humans once again.